No she's not deceitful but very confused about where she wants to go with regards to us. But there have been some baby step improvements. To update:
On Sunday we had dinner together as a family. We are finding this to be a very good transition activity for us as a family when we "transfer" the girls from one home to the next. It works for us.
While helping prepare dinner I told her I did have something to say. I told her that I greatly appreciated her. How wonderful it was that 9 months later she's still trying as best as she can and giving as much as she can. How amazing it was that even though she felt her well was dry she found something to give and that was to give as much as possible at being friends. This really struck a cord with her.
So fast forward to after dinner, while cleaning up and the kids not around she says she has something she wants to talk about. Turns out she went househunting on Saturday and looked at a new neighborhood close to our house. As she put it, it's very much like the place we live in, in England, a neighborhood we loved. While talking about it she made a number of "we" statements and talked about specific floorplans as if she's considering how it works for us. She was keen to get my thoughts on it all.
So I think she for the first time is starting to get a glimpse of a future together again. Now it's really up to me to manage myself!!
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
