Walkin' Towards The Blessing!

[FaithfulH]

SF,

Thanks for sharing the Steinkamp's post. It is powerful...as are all of their posts!

Early (VERY early) this morning, I posted the following on my thread over at the FortySixty forum:

Dear friends,

It has been many weeks....I actually have stopped in occasionally to check on your threads...but, haven't been involved enough to comment. I hope you understand that right now I have one priority....continuing to follow God's lead on healing my marriage. I believe I am honestly becoming the husband and father that I should have been long ago. Those thoughts don't come from a place of guilt....simply a place of reflecting during the separation on fulfilling God's vision of FaithfulH. I wasn't a "bad" guy...I was actually a pretty "good" guy...but, I was a better man to those who didn't know me well. In other words, I believe I abused my God-given family by being less loving...less caring...less sensitive...more selfish...more arrogant...more controlling...than any person should have been.

So, where are we know? Well, since the reconciliation started almost 3 months ago....every day brings new blessings. I am not overstating how awesome things are when I say that it has been like a 3 month honeymoon! My W and I have spent many, many hours alone....our kids are very independent at 17,19, and 20. We have toured CT and NY vineyards...taken trips to NYC, Rhode Island, and New Hampshire....walked on the beach...hiked in the mountains....sat by the firepit for hours on end. We have talked about the future...and we have even talked about the past...including the separation. The discussions about the separation are the hardest....because I realize how much hurt their is in BOTH of us. This was a surprise to me (yeah, I guess I'm pretty naive too)...since my W initiated the separation and divorce.

I stopped by to share all this because I hope that there is even just one person who is in the pit of despair....ready to give up on their marriage and spouse....who finds encouragement here to stand! Now that I see what God can do when we wait on Him, I believe even more now that too many people give up too early....never knowing if that sudden, unexpected healing was just around the corner. Although I stop in here very infrequently, I continue to pray daily for the healing of your marriages. Praise God from Whom ALL blessings flow!

I am praying in agreement with you, SF...and you, Chicki...and many other "standers" on this board...that the prodigal spouses will come "home"...but most importantly, that they will see the error of their ways and return to their rightful place doing God's work.