Hi - I am coming to the view that MLC and identity crisis are the same thing, and am thinking of starting a thread on this very subject.
How long post bomb are you?
A real crisis that has beena long time coming will take time to work through. I have worked with alcoholics and drug abusers. They ofen take numerous attemtps to stop, and don't stop until they want to.
If he went to counselling and stopped it is possible that [as an intelligent man] your h sensed that there were things to be dealt with that he isn't ready to deal with yet.
I have huge respect for good therapists, but they don't 'cure' us. We sort ouselves out. They facilitate the process.
My h went to therapy before he was ready. It spooked him hewas shaking and de-stablized. Leave him. We LBS are enablers and fixers. We can't fix this. We can't even pick up the peices. My therapist told me that if my wants to come back to me, it has to be a a man, not as a wounded child.
