Delia,
I will work on this. I have the book and will study it as you have suggested.

What are some ways of slowing it down. Right now she seems very happy to be gone. I am starting a 32 week communication and life skills class next week.

I believe that my wife has been posting on this forum (she knows I have the book). I can't stop her from posting, but it is annoying. I want to save the marriage and she is on the forum talking about how happy she is being divorced.