Thank you for your suggestion. There is still enough there that I think if I could get her to agree and attend things would work out. I am pretty detached at this point, I want things to work but I'm also ready to move on if I have to.
Well W wants to talk Saturday, we have been talking about sitting down for a while. She knows where I stand and has dropped some good hints but she also might be trying to let me down easy. It's hard because I suspect an affair and we have approached this subject, my radar after being with her for 10, married for 7 says she isn't lying. I can tell, but now I don't know what to believe. It seems a lot of the trust bank is empty.
Well I'm over on the newcomer board and W delivered the D papers 2 Monday ago. She didn't file them she wanted us to agree on them first, but she won't talk about them with me and after I heard she was working on them I forced her to bring them to me. I honestly don't think she would have if I didn't ask.
So I know the terms of what she wants and I'm willing to agree, my proposal, I'll play it by ear, is that if she will agree to attend, then if nothing changes after I will agree to file uncontested on the terms she has asked for. Not sure how that will go over. She wants to talk so maybe I see how things are going and if not well I toss it out there. She doesn't really know but I have many attorney friends, basically she can't even get what she is asking for, so if she drags it out she will spend a fortune on attorney fees and end up worse off. I don't want to do that to her, but at this point I have to protect myself. Hopefully things go in a positive direction.
Either way I have been doing great, my GAL has really turned out well and I'm having a really good time. I spend most free nights out with people and have reconected with some old friends. The house is mine, she left and wants no part of it, I'm really enjoying it and gardening. I have done some work on it and she was sort of upset when she saw the changes I made to it, but she won't be here so I keep doing what I'm doing.
It's hard, she is a very attractive women, men blatently hit on her even when she had her ring, we never even came close to an issue prior, but the last year has been down hill and hard. I love her unconditionaly and I'm starting to see that maybe that wasn't reciprocated. It is tough, but tomorrow the sun will rise, I will be alive and who knows what the next day brings.
Keep your chins up everyone, I'm serious, life does move on and there are so many things to be grateful for and be blessed with. This is so cliche but it is truly better to have loved and lost, then to never have loved at all. My M was great, I loved it, but I now see the flaws, my problems and hers. They are fixable, but while you can fix your marriage by your own actions at some point the S does have to either stand with you or apart, not necessarily against but not with. Good luck all!
