What an elegant and gracious and wise woman you are. It is sad, isn't it - but so great you have found your compassion for your H and appreciation for what has happened, even so. It has been hard to love him and be compassionate, I know! He has been so difficult to love this past year +. You are a beautiful and loving being. Even if your H doesn't know it, he is still lucky to have you in his life.
I also read your post about your new L and the path you are taking in honoring yourself financially with what you are entitled to in the D. I am so proud of you. I know you started out so disenheartened, you just wanted to get away from the madness and "didn't want a thing" from your H. However, you deserve some equity in your financial balance sheet, and I am glad you have decided to take a stand in this regard, and that you have a good L who will take care of you. After all, your H in his delusions has an expectation that you are a "bad guy", and it is not healthy for you to be bullied into being submissive at your own expense, in order to rectify that. What is fair and equitable, but no less. I am proud of you.
I am thinking of you and sending my love. Thank you for being here.
PositivelyListening ************************************** When one door of happiness closes, another one opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us. - Helen Keller
