Had a great night. Picked up S at daycare and there was no meds with him. Called W and she said her Dad was at her place and I could go by and get them. Felt pretty awckward but I went.
Ended up spending 3 hours with FIL and had a great time. There was very little R talk but he did ask where things stood. Told him how I felt and said I don't know, it's really up to W. He said W hadn't talked about D with him since he left so he thought we might be reconciling. He honestly didn't know though, not trying to drop hints. He said I was a great guy and a good dad and it would be a shame. Felt nice to hear.
Well we talked and he had his drink and I beer. We played with S for some time and we caught up. It was really good. At one point I tried to make an exit and he said I should stay, I said it probably wouldn't be wise if I was here when W got here. Then he was like well you have an hour then sit down. Great convo, I told him I left that I hope it isn't a long time before I get to see him again, he told me to stay in touch. Walked us out to the car and said goodbye to S. Said I was welcome down in Florida anytime. Did the same.
When I talked to W on the phone she said she still wants to talk and suggested Saturday. Said that would be great. Not sure why tomorrow or Friday don't work, I'm sure she has plans but I know FIL was only in town for the night. She might be trying to sort through her feelings and how she is going to react to me and my suggestions.
I'm heavily thinking of throwing out the following proposal. If W will attend Routerville with me in 2 weeks, and after she still wants the D I will give it to her uncontested on the terms she has laid out. Might not be the best move but the terms aren't that bad and she thinks she is getting the world. I also think I have to play the talk by ear, she delivered the papers 2 Mondays ago and still won't talk about them and I don't think she would have given them to me if I didn't ask for them. She hasn't filed yet, so that is good. I need to see these as babysteps but I'm so skeptical and checked out it is hard. But I want it. Either way I'll be a stand up guy and move on fine. Just hope it is with her by my side.
