Just getting started peicing it back together 2

[jersting]

I think you are right about stringing me along. I am going to try and stay in control here because of that reason. We have a divorce hearing on the 30th of this month so I guess that would be the deadline you are talking about. She and her lawyer set this up the end of June and I was just now served with it so I guess the court system is as slow as they say. Her and her lawyer stated that they wanted the provisional order that was set last year in november to be reinstated but my lawyer says there is no reason it can't all be settled by the 30th. That is what my lawyer and I are going to try and accomplish. I have already bought her a brand new home and gave her some cash to get moved in and she is going to get some more. How much more she gets depends on how fast she wants this to be over. In Indiana my lawyer tells me it is cut and dry 50/50 so the judge will end up awarding her what we have already offered to get it over sooner, but her lawyer advised her to go for more money. What is funny about that is that he had all of the personal finacial statements from the last 5years but for some reason he thinks we have more than what we have. My lawyer tells me not to get upset about any of the money stuff because if her and I can not agree on it the judge will look at the finacials and what it is, is what it is.

[OldFool]

Thinking about you and your upcoming court date (just under a week away). Having had the D hanging over me for ten months now, I can appreciate the relief of getting it over with. I hope yours is relatively quick and that she won't drag you through any more.

[jersting]

Thanks OF, I am only a few days away now and I am starting to feel a slight bit of weight lifting off of me right now. It sucks to be a sincible person when in the middle of all of this. I have literally put my life on hold for over a year now. No sellling or buying of any thing to be able to make a few bucks on the side or anything. I am driving a company truck and have not been able to buy a decent car that I can depend on. On another note though I did get back into motocross on the amature level and I am having the time of my life doing that again. Broke 3 ribs a couple months ago, but i am healed up now and looking foward to my weekends to go and do that instead of going to the bar and feeling like crap the next two days. Now when I wake up Sunday morning I either go to church or go to the races and feel much better about myself come Monday morning.

[jersting]

OK, just when I thought I was feeling fine, I am in one hell of a shape right now. I am 36 hours away from the big day in court and i feel as though my world is falling apart again.... I sometimes wish I could have a remote like adam sandler in the movie click just so i could fast foward a couple of years when hopefully this will be completely behind me.

[S_O_T_S]

Hey jersting.

Sorry to see you where you are, and I know exactly how that is.

I am 36 hours away from the big day in court and i feel as though my world is falling apart again....

I guess what I would say to this is that the world you knew is going away, but the world itself isn't falling apart.

While this does really, really hurt - no doubt about it I can tell you from firsthand experience that it does get better. You'll realize that there is a whole new life ahead for you to build as you choose.

That's probably little comfort right now, and perhaps also a little unbelievable.....

In the interim, just focus on feeling whatever there is to feel. Mourn the loss, feel the rage or sadness or whatever. But don't allow yourself to get stuck there, either.

I sometimes wish I could have a remote like adam sandler in the movie click just so i could fast foward a couple of years when hopefully this will be completely behind me.

I used to wish for this too. I've never seen the movie but one of my closest, wisest friends pointed out to me that in this movie, he ended up missing out on some very good times too...

If you could fast forward, what might you miss that you would regret?

Hang in there man. Keep your eyes on your trip to Vegas?

Take care,

[OldFool]

Sorry you've hit a pothole of sorts. I'm sending good thoughts your way and hoping for a quick resolution, for your sake, so you can begin to move on and leave the pain behind.

[jersting]

went to court today and she acted like we were going to be done today but apparently she and her lawyer had not spoken enough because she would not sign the agreement with what we had put together. She said it was not enough cash so she wanted more. This happened after we had already left the court house because the judge said we needed to get the worked out before he would hear the case. Now we have to wait until april 08 for another court date unless she will agree to something before that. My guess is that she will be broke by christmas and she will want to settle before that so now I just have to play the waiting game. Oh yea did I mention she got fired from her job back in February and now she is living on what she thinks she is going to get from me.

[OldFool]

I feel your pain. My condolences. I'd hoped she'd give you at least one break and not drag things out. Did you really mean that you might have to wait another *eight* months?!?

[jersting]

Yea, if she won't settle and we have to wait for a judge to do it we will have to wait until April 08. I don't want to live like this but unfortunatly once you marry a woman like this you are stuck with them until they decide they are done!

[OldFool]

Wow. Again, I am so sorry. I'm hoping for a breakthrough for your sake.