...and that IC really has to be his idea for it to really help him.
Upside - Doesn't this really answer the question? I guess from my perspective, two things come to mind.
First, my H is pretty smart....in a blinding fog, but still pretty intelligent. I'm not sure that he would fall for something like this and even if I could get him to come, wouldn't it be pretty obvious in the session what the real purpose of the session would be?
Second, is he really ready for counseling? Everything we read on these boards indicates that MLC has to run it's course. Even in the DR book, it says that time and patience are the key. It is like forcing an alcholic into rehab. Until they want to go and get sober, sending them to rehab is usually not successful. They relapse when they get out. He just doesn't think that he is the problem, so why would he need counseling?
I don't mean to be negative or discouraging - I really understand holding onto any piece of hope that you can.
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I just don't how to hold on to hope for months and years to come especially when I am so helpless in this situation.
I know how you feel, I really do... If you are anything like me, you are used to being in control. Control of your life, your emotions, your future, everything. This is why this thing is so hard...you have no control over something that directly impacts you. And that is new. And hard.
But you know the answer on how to hold on... You take it minute by minute, day by day and so on. Baby steps. You focus on you. Go to the IC session for you - to help you move on with your life. Don't focus so much on him....
