Overlooked, I think, in all of this is that the D has been postponed until Dec. I know you're pretty detached from your W right now, but, who knows, you might feel differently next week.
GD, I gotta say this and please don't take it the wrong way. IF your W breaks it off with BF and wants to come back, DON"T TAKE HER BACK!!! REALLY!!!!
She needs time and space to figure out who she is. If you were to take her back now, she would lose this chance. She would not be able to find out what it is like to live in the real world and support herself. You would never know if she came back to be with you and your money.
This is not being mean, just realistic. Maybe, if you feel like if, a year or so after she breaks up with her BF (yup, not if but when), you can ask her out for a cup of coffee and decide if there is anything there. I bet you won't want to, but ya never know.
SD
Me 41 W 41 Kids: S9 S7 Married 16 years Bomb dropped 2/2/07 Still living together! current thread
