Hmm, what about forgiveness and redemption? It helps all of us to have forgiveness and expect redemption. It hurts all of us to stand in damnation and judgement. I honestly believe that many WSs are responding to an act of betrayal themselves. It is a sad cop-out but heir minds are somehow weakened like a drug abuser. I am not advocating it, I just think it helps to try to understand the symptoms so we can cheat- proof our Rs if it is possible. At this point, I am starting to think that cheaters are just acting like other mammals biologically. I am married to a caveman in a half shirt.
I think we can both agree that the cheating was wrong... but that wasn't why I came down on her. I came down on her for continuing to speak with the OM. That's unacceptable behaviour, selfish behaviour, bad behaviour, etc etc.
