And you are very welcome for the posts on your thread. I feel so much support here, and its a place where we all understand just how much it hurts. Sometimes its hard VERY hard to do the opposite of what your heart feels, isn't it?
I can't wait to hear. Amazing he is trying to go, wanting to go....
I will be 38years by the end of this year. I guess I am feeling a little burned out with all the mommy & kid time. I just need some adult time. Dont get me wrong I love my kids,but I do need to get out more w/ people my age.
Keep the imaginary BF thing going. This sort of thing works on my H too.
Went to my golf friend's party. We all had a great time. There were about 12 ladies there and we ate, drank and danced. I got home about 10:30. H left me a messaage on our recorder. He tells me that he has watered the flower pots, and emptied the diswasher (which he had already left me a note telling me). He also says that he has called my brother to tell him that he probably would be going on our golf vacation. Of course, my brother was really happy as H and him are very close. He also tells me that he had a little talk with "O" (the stuffed oranatang on our bed) in a nice way. What ever that means. He also says I hope we are still on for lunch in the park tomorrow as we had talked about it on Tuesday. Then his goodbye was ILY
So today I meet him for lunch. He asks how my date went last night. I said "I had a nice evening". I did not confirm it to be a date or not. He then goes into how he knows that it must be a real ego boost to me since it has been a long time since I had my ego boosted. I just said yes, having ones ego boosted is nice and being wined and dined is nice also. It always feels good to feel that you are attractive. He says, well I think you are beautiful and I'm attracted to you. I say nothing. He says you like to go to dinner with me don't you? I say of course, I love going to dinner with you. We always have fun. He then asks me if I'm going to golf tomorrow afternoon. I say yes. He says well are your golfing at our club or at the other club (the one that imaginary bf belongs to). I just look at him and say what difference does it make where I'm golfing. He say well I'm not trying to keep tabs on you, I'm just curious where you are golfing. I never give him an answer. I ask him if he has found out if he can go on our vacation yet or not. He says no, but I will know tomorrow. We discuss the trip plans and talk about how much fun it is and the laughling and joking. Then he has to ruin it. He says well we'll have to make it a celebration as I might never see your brother again, depending on what happens with us. Why does he have to throw that in there?
I tell him I have to get back to work and he kisses me good-by and I ask what time he will be by on Saturday to pick me up for our golf tournament. He gives me an answer and then I leave.
I haven't heard from him since. Once again, he didn't show up tonight at my gym to workout.
Faith
H 48 W 57 M 15 yrs T 18 yrs No children EA 1/12/06 Moved out 3/10/07 & 8/16/07 Back on 5/18/07 2nd Thread
Man, why do they have to ruin it with one line?? Like they just have to reassure us that they are still not sure what they want. Hey, mister, we knew that, no need to ruin the moment.
Everything else in your post was beyond positive so I am ordering you to overlook that one spew and see the wonderful things. This imaginary bf thing seems to be working, but I think what's working more is your show of confidence and indifference.
lwb& Faith I have to agree w/ these one liners they always have to throw in so as 4 us not to get or our hopes up too high. Duh, we know the drill guys!
My H had been asking for a hot sex lunch get together for a while. I usually turn him down saying I have lunch appoinments. It seems as though now the sex thing is wearing down w/ OW? This is how they started (old coworkers) the hot sex lunch dates.Now it must be old & routine? They are livng together & now H is treating me like the OW?
BTW, we started up having sex again about a month ago (at our house). So yesturday I finally say yes to lunch sex and before I leave to go back 2 work,he throws in- dont get too use to me servicing you!!!! I calmly say ya know its not like its not EASILY accesible to me(imaginary BF).
Later he goes beserk via the email thinking I was going to the football game w/ "BF".
EM - I'm so glad you are moving to piecing. I will get caught up on your thread. I'm glad you didn't give in/up.
Journaling
So our tee time was 10:10 on Saturday. He came over about 9:00. He has on jeans and changed into shorts. Said he had been to his storage unit to move from the one he had to a smaller one. The jeans were laying on the bed and I just had to check the pockets. Wish I hadn't. In his back pocket was a ticket to Shakespear (outdoor summer theater) for the prior night. Make me angry. Tried to keep my mouth shut, which I did, but really affected my attitude.
Golfed in the tournament. We didn't do very well. I wasn't playing well at all and I was not in a very good mood. Snooping just doesn't pay, it just doesn't pay....
Got home and got ready to go to dinner for my B-day. Had a nice dinner, but my mood still wasn't very good. I really think that the B-day bothered me. They usually don't, but when OW is 24 years younger, it hurts. He got me some nice golf clothes and told me I had another present, but would have to wait until I see my brother next week on our golf vacation. (oh, ya, H got the time off for our vacation and we will be spending a whole 7 days (9/7 - 9/14) golfing with family). I wonder where he is telling OW he will be.
The B-day card was nice. It said something to the effect "To my wonderful wife on her b-day" on the outside. The inside said something about hoping all of your prayers are answered. He then signed it "You are a wonderful women. Love, H" Not a Big deal, but so much better then the horrible Valentine's Day card I got.
He spent the night, but I told him he would have to sleep in the spare bedroom.
Sunday went to the second day of the tournament. Still not playing well. Still not in a very good mood. It was very hot and it took 6 hours to play. I was so hungry, which is not good because I tend to get very impatient when my blood sugar level drops. We finally ate at the club and went home around 5:00.
I sat around the rest of the evening and then watched a movie. We both kind of fell asleep. I got up to go to bed and asked him if he was staying the night. He said that he had assumed that he would. I told him that since we would be sleeping together all week on vacation, he could sleep with me if he wanted. I went to bed. He came to bed about 1/2 hr later. Not a lot of touching, but he did make an effort to give me a peck good night. I was surprised he stayed.
He left the next morning around 10:30 saying he had to do laundry and grocery shopping. Ya, right. It takes all day to do that. He did give me a peck good-bye and said ILY. It took me by surprise and I said ILY too purely as a reflex. I shouldn't have told him ILY too. I should have just said thank you.
So I don't hear from him again until today I get an e-mail saying he hoped I enjoyed my B-Day week-end and that it was so hard to leave me yesterday because he gets close to me. He write usually the day after is the most difficult for him. I wrote back saying thank you for the nice week end and that I was sorry for not being in a realy good mood. Than I said that everytime you leave it is your choice and while you say it is hard to leave me it must be worth it because you continue to make that choice. Then I said I would see him on Friday (the day we leave for vacation). Over the week-end, I had said something about him seeing OW everyday and not me and he said that was because I didn't want to see him everyday. So in my e-mail I but a ps-I have been thinking about something you said this week-end and that was that I didn't want to see you everyday and that was why we didn't see each other. That is not true. I don't want to see you before or after you have been with her, which is why we don't see each other more often.
So, I didn't do very well. I must get an attitude adjustment. One little snoop, really set the tone and it wasn't worth it.
Faith
H 48 W 57 M 15 yrs T 18 yrs No children EA 1/12/06 Moved out 3/10/07 & 8/16/07 Back on 5/18/07 2nd Thread
He also says I hope we are still on for lunch in the park tomorrow as we had talked about it on Tuesday. Then his goodbye was ILY 
Why does he have to throw that in there?
