Nope. wont work. Well it might work a couple times, but it wont last because you are looking for tactics to control and change him. Judging from his work, he is no slouch at reading intent.
Thanks... I forgot to say "and you have to mean it when you talk him up". You've got to zero in on what you genuinely admire about him and speak with utter sincerity and no ulterior motives, or you might as well forget it. You want people to know how awesome he is, because that makes him happy... getting laid is something that happens on its own from time to time and may be influenced, but not controlled, by happy-making episodes like that. An intention on your part to control it makes it all fall flat.
Originally Posted By: cac4
Of course, I couldn't say that speaking to him in his love language is trying to "get" him to want to have sex with you, or they'd start aiming the 2x4's back in my direction.
Nope. You show him how much you love him, in ways he understands, because you want to. Because making him happy is a fun thing for you to do since you love him and enjoy showing it and enjoy seeing the smile on his face that he gets when you really reach him. Maybe you'll get laid and maybe you won't right away... who knows how he's feeling or what he's thinking at the time. But for that moment, you've made him feel happy and connected and you get a nice sense of accomplishment and connectedness from that, and if you string enough moments together like that, you have what we call a happy, close relationship and all kinds of good things are bound to happen from there. They don't happen on a schedule or exactly to spec, mind you, but you'll end up liking them just the same. Probably.
a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.
