I had an IC session today. My C really has no advice for me other than to give my H more time....and I am paying him to tell me this!!! While talking to the C, he said that my H is certainly having a crisis (duh!), either identity or midlife. He feels that my H could progress if he gets back into some C. We all know that there is no way that I could suggest this to my H and that IC really has to be his idea for it to really help him. That being said, the C feels that my H will just stay keep the status quo to avoid dealing with anything. The C and I were thinking that if either of us requested that my H show up for an IC session to "help" me, that maybe the C could somehow make a connection with him and get him to work on something.
Just a little history...shortly after my H left, we went to this same C for MC. I continued with him for the IC and my H went to another C that he had been to when his 1st M ended. Anyway, I think we had about 4 MC sessions (at one session he even told the C that he wanted to make baby steps to R) and then my H just decided not to showing up anymore. Shortly after that, he said he got too busy to go to his IC and stopped going.
Would it be a really bad idea for the C to call my H and ask him to come in for a session to "help" me understand how to deal with the current state of our M? Or should I ask him if he would do it? I realize that getting any benefit out of this is a long shot, but would it hurt anything? I just don't how to hold on to hope for months and years to come especially when I am so helpless in this situation.
I would truly appreciate everyone's input on this.
