You asked me to check your thread. IMHO, I think you are doing right to go dark on your h. It seems to bother him but it is better for you. I gained the most stength when I didn't see my h and was doing what needed to be done for me and my kids.
Kiki is right, just keep doing what you are doing.
Hi goal. I almost posted you when you started this thread. Your title didn't come out to me as "Hello Darkness My Old Friend" but rather as "Hello Cowgirl in the Sand." But I guess that is because I am more Neil Young than Simon and Garfunkle.
Fortumately someone mentioned your post to me because I was running when you posted it and actually missed a few (and if I missed anyone on Cinders I do apologize). Then the fantasy football draft. And before you know it, it is 10:30...phew...thank God I am on vacation.
OK...so you want it straight and unadulterated...can I say unadulterated here! Anyway, after going back through and reading your story all I can say is that anyone who is standing for their marriage needs to read how you have handled the situation. You have protected yourself. You have not allowed yourself to be treated as a second class citizen. Far too often, people fear the loss of the spouse if they push things. You recognized that it was necessary. I applaud you.
As for your standing, it seems to me that you will do so for a while even if this divorce comes to fruition. I applaud that too. One of my favorite people from the board (who I have met and is a friend) is standing. She has been divorced for quite some time. Her former H is nowhere near the jack @$$ your H is. But your approach reminds me of her in that you have made a decision and you continue to move forward with your life without taking crap from this guy who is treating you and your children poorly. Not sure how you do this, but you do.
So keep doing what you are doing. I am happy to see your story and plan to refer others to it.
Good luck. No matter what the outcome, you are one strong woman and I appreciate strong women. In my book, you are a success story.
I am truly inspired by reading your posts. I just wanted you to know how much your strength helps others to move forward. I'm happy for you that you have a delay in the trial.
