Stop. You keep running ahead and completely missing what I am saying to you. I understand all the things you are saying, but I am talking about a very specific thing.
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That is simply not the case. You can literally, literally STOP YOURSELF FROM FEELING BAD.
This is complete and utter nonsense.
No it isn't. I'm not throwing a theory or a philosophy at you. This can actually be done when you learn how to do it.
I understand how you want to argue with me about it. But there isn't anything to argue about. That would be like arguing over if you could learn how to throw a ball.
I'm not proposing any magical outcomes. I am telling you to try it, and see what happens. For yourself.
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I don’t know… I do plenty of the get-a-life thing, doing my own detaching to deal with her detaching. I’ve not encountered any sort of shock over pure opportunity.
I am not talking about getting a life. I am not telling you to detach.
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You can actively NOT negative emotion YOUR power. If you don't feed it, it WILL go away. That is independent action YOU CAN TAKE, regardless of what she does or does not do.
That's it. That's all I'm talking about. It's the same kind of thing you might do when you 'focus' during TKD.
I'm not saying ignore the feeling, or try and convince yourself you don't really feel a certain way. This is your body, your emotions. The same way you can train your body, your can train for this. It takes awareness, first and foremost.
