My wife wants out !!

[dadtotwo]

Fellow DB'ers...I have been thinking about my situation day and night(as most do here). If you have read my thread you know my story and the financial mess I created. You are also aware that my W gave up(emotionally) on our M months ago and has since started to pursue OM.

The question I have been asking myself again and again is:"Do I want my W back because I WANT her or I NEED her? I really think my answer is that I NEED her back(THIS IS NOT THE RIGHT REASON)!!

We get so used to having this person in our lives that when they are gone, either emotionally or physically, we scramble to figure out WHY? Then we can go so low as to humiliate ourselves by crying, pleading and stating "I can change". Since when did our H/W get to decide if we are meeting all of THEIR needs while they do nothing for us??

I for one will not allow myself to NEED my W with me. I have made mistakes but I am a good H and F and I will not let my WAW make me feel less than worthy of her love or my children's.

I also have enough self-respect that I will not be the "fall back" when her new R blows up.

I WILL BECOME THE MAN I KNOW I CAN BE!!!