I have been reading along here and the thing that worries me is this.........
You identify various strategies that you have used to "get" your H to have sex with you. Sometimes it works and he does. You've said that "American cheese and bologna on white bread" sex is fine as long as that is all your H will dish up. As long as he dishes it up regularly. Does that sound about right?
Honey, you need to get familiar with the concept of "crap" sex. Crap sex is what is wheedled out of someone, finagled, thrown to you like a sub-standard sandwich. Accepting crap sex is part of the problem. Nympho or not you MUST get control of yourself. You MUST identify your contributions to whatever is lacking in your marriage. You MUST quit indulging in various escape fantasies - divorce, affairs etc... and engage in this M like a grown up. If you do not do so then even the crap sex will get few and far between and the wheedling and finagling will get you less and less. I would caution you against instituting a bunch of public praise for sex or reading too much into the two days of sex you got recently. You can tell your H you appreciate it, you can tell him it was good (if it was) and then you can find a way to show him that you appreciate it that HE would appreciate (something that means something to him - his favorite meal, watching football with him, an evening with the guys - whatever).
I know it seems that folks are taking a hard line. We do so because we have all banged our heads against brick walls and we can see when it is happening. We have all built our own walls to getting what we want and now we know when one is being built by someone else.
