No I don't mean the feeling of loving somebody from the beginning not able to be rekindled. I mean the feeling of passion and obsession that you initially get from meeting someone. Yes I agree that obviously they married you for a reason and it should still be there, just burried.
Heck, I had that feeling of madly in love all over again with my W after my "awakening". Of course she quickly doused that with the bombs.
And yes, the last thing I should do is pressuring my W. I've been doing it forever and it certainly contributed to making things worse and worse. For once if I can show her I can be patient and give her time and space it may get her to want to be with me more. Too bad the W doesn't have much faith in me accomplishing my goals. Of course me continously saying I won't talk about R and breaking down does not help at all. I'm really stopping now and hopefully during the S I can show her that I can keep my mouth shut.
M: 31 W: 31 M: 7 T: 8 S:4 D:2 Bomb dropped: too many to count or remember, 12/17/07 last one S on 9/2/07 W sent off D papers 12/31/07. Me trying to live life and hope she returns one day.