I am so sorry that your husband hasn't held up his end of the deal. I saw that you revised your "status" on myspace so I thought something might be up.
His blatant lying isn't at all surprising. My husband does the same thing and it is the most insulting behavior I can imagine. It sends the message that your husband thinks he is smarter than you, that he can pull the wool over your eyes again and again, and you will continue to tolerate it.
I feel like we are at the same place in our respective relationships. I have decided to move on and it feels so freeing. I feel disappointed in myself that I am giving up on my marriage but, let's be honest, my husband gave up quite some time ago. I think that you owe it to your children to be the best that you can be, and it sounds like that might be easier to accomplish without him.
It sucks and still feels terrible knowing that my marriage is ending, but, in the end, I know that I will be happy and much better off not always having to question and wonder where/what/who my husband is doing. I want my boys to grow up learning to trust people and they won't be able to do that if I am still in this marriage where I can't trust anything my spouse says.
It is a personal decision, and one that you have to make for yourself but I hope you can take some comfort in my situation/decision and know that I wish you nothing but the best.
