I'm pretty happy with everything myself, considering. It's too bad that she's at a place where she believes I'm trying to punish her. In a way, she is kind of being punished (financially) for leaving, but it is simply a consequence of her choice to leave. It isn't vindictive on my part -- it is purely a business decision.
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Good points. You're very correct in that I'm throwing money at her in exchange for her feelings. It is a moral issue with me in that I don't want her to be financially in the dumps, and I feel this way because of how poorly I treated her at times throughout the M. I know that money can't pay for this, but I do feel bad that I'm set financially and she is not. You're probably right that I should set up the legal stuff in a purely business-like fashion, and then if I want to, provide for her under my moral obligations when I feel it is the "right" thing to do. However, I feel like it is still controlling for me to more or less say, "I'll help you if/when I think I should."
