Nomopo's Thread - Is something happening to me?

[BirdDog]

The hardest part for me is moving on/detaching while being "nice" or loving or happy/cheerful/positive/upbeat. In other words, moving on/detaching while acting as if. That is a fine line to walk, but I am still working on it.

Hey Nomo,

Haven't been on in awhile and wanted to check back on your sitch. In reference to your above quote, I had the exact same problem and discussed it with my IC. I was able to be nice towards W while I saw there was hope for a R, as that hoped died I started to let some of anger out.

The anger was there while I still felt there was hope for a R, but was able to put it aside. He asked me if I could put it aside once again even w/o the hope of an R, that it shouldn't be that much different. I thought about it and answered yes, then I just went it did it. I am now in a completely different place and moving on with my life, at times interacting w/ W still feel tense, but not so much anger. I think as time goes by those tense feelings will disapate as well.

I have even been feeling over the past couple days that she did me a huge favor by ending the R.