ell, it's official-she has filed and wants to serve me my papers asap. She just called yesterday and as I have yet to call her back (detaching), she has texted me and called two additional times in 24 hrs. Says, "avoiding this is not going to make it go away". Ohhh, how I would love to throw THAT little phrase back at her! She still has no idea that I know about the A with OM. Thinking I may wait to ask her when we see each other over the papers. I'm curious as to whether she will admit it or not. I have pieced together a few memories of times she mentioned bumping into him before the S, and it's looking like this may have been in the works a little longer than I had previously thought. Never had her pegged for a cheater-I actually trusted her FULLY in that dept....and the fact that my marriage didn't even make it a year, and was lost to THIS sorry excuse of an OM, is even more humiliating. I guess I need to accept that based on her behavior and who he is, that they probably deserve each other after all. No matter, my vows were real and I meant them. She is he&l-bent on this divorce, and it looks like once again, she gets her way. I hope she realizes what a boring, dysfunctional and shallow existence this dude will give to her.
