Being Me, you mentioned you are about to hit the big 50 soon (I'm not far behind you!). I thought I'd share this poem that I came across, I hope you enjoy it.
A Woman Knows
It is winter and I am fifty Nine women have gathered in a small cabin on the edge of a frozen lake to sing and dance and laugh away this awkward reality We have walked on the ice in the moonlight and laughed our way through dinner. We have soothed fifty with new red lipstick. In this small, warm room I have pulled away from myself and I am watching the women dance. A room full of beauty ~ tangible as blood It breaks your heart wide open when a woman knows how beautiful she is. At fifty, young men's eyes slide over us like water. Fraying hair, lines on our skin the pull of gravity, turn us into background into echoes But it breaks the seals from your eyes when a woman knows how beautiful she is. She dances with the fluid sensuality of long experience and deep memories of love. She moves like the tides, like heartbeat. Fifty, they say, is sliding into old The end of the line the end of youth and passion the end of flirtation and wild physical being the end. But it lifts the barriers from your mind when a woman knows how beautiful she is Her confidence, the sexy movement of her dance The life of her shoulder and the tease in her hips Experience textures her Layers her movements with context and consciousness She dances her life story She fills the room with power When she knows how beautiful she is. Outside, tree branches sketch sharp wrinkles and soft shadows against the snow The year is old but we are only fifty.
Thanks, Wii! And, it sure did bring a smile to my face, Phoenix! A friend bought me a t-shirt that said "I'm not 50, I'm 49.95!" So funny.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
I found this quote which I thought really applied to our sitches: “God created the law of free will, and God created the law of cause and effect. And he himself will not violate the law. We need to be thinking less in terms of what God did and more in terms of whether or not we are following those laws.” - Marianne Williamson
I was also thinking about this DB'ing theory, and how we humans always want what we think we can't have (I posted something about this on someone else's thread). So, we should be the greener grass in order to have a chance of attracting our spouses back. Keep in mind the cause and effect of our choices and actions. I am certainly going to ponder this with my sitch, and see what cause I can effect, which will give me the best outcome.
Labour Day weekend is coming, and the kids go back to school next week (in our region, anyway), so lots of things to do, organize, etc. Busy time, indeed, and it will help keep my mind off negative stuff. Although, I have been pretty positive about life lately. I am sending my sitch into the cosmos, and allowing the Creator to deal with it as it pleases Him. I am letting go of the little control I have over my life, and seeing where it will take me. (As I said previously ... just floating along the river of life.)
Phoenix:
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Very nice, excellent perspective. I too have been somewhat following that approach. So far the outcome has definately been positive. W seems to be pulling closer and closer. Because I have chosen to follow this approach, her path has becoming closer and closer. It is encouraging to see that her choices have be more and more in my direction. Of course constant prayer hasn't hurt either.
that was beatiful whatisis!! I used to follow your thread over in Infidelity, you are a very amazing person, nice to see you for a bit
==================== I am sending my sitch into the cosmos, and allowing the Creator to deal with it as it pleases Him. ==================== BINGO! she's got it
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.