80% success rate is still quite high really. And the other number sounds better for the W. :P Going in there with a positive mentality would boost success rate. Of course she has to go first. I'm hoping she would be interested after some time. She is definitely open to it, just not ready at the moment.
And as I said, not moving out is going straight to divorce. At least I have a chance right now. We both have agreed that this is a temporary timeout for both of us to sort things out. I'll have to give her a little time and see if things improve or not. She wants to keep the family together if she is able to. She is trying to figure out if she can get past her hurting/resentment. A little time hopefully will heal some of that.
It's not a legal separation and she is not "getting on with the process" of divorce. As I said, each person's situation is different. We all have to do what's right for our own situation. One works for a situation may not apply for another.
Also, in the stats of those separation, are they all legal separations? If so usually those are headed towards divorce anyways. Are the people on good terms or bad terms? How many of them are actively DBing and trying to save the marriage? There are so many unknowns rather than just looking at a single number.
80% of married couples separate 2 months or more sometimes in their marriage. If 70% of them divorce, that sure isn't 50% divorce rate....
M: 31 W: 31 M: 7 T: 8 S:4 D:2 Bomb dropped: too many to count or remember, 12/17/07 last one S on 9/2/07 W sent off D papers 12/31/07. Me trying to live life and hope she returns one day.
