I will say, that for now, using a condom with extra lubrication does shorten the entry time by about half. And I have a feeling that if we were having sex on a regular basis, the W would probably develop a better working knowledge of how to have me enter her with minimal discomfort. Because the sexual encounters are so infrequent, I have a feeling that she tends to "forget" what to do, so to speak.
Chrome,
For me, condoms, even with ample lubrication, were always more uncomfortable than a non-barrier method. They don't bother me so much now, but still, I do feel the friction and it's still not quite as comfortable with as it is without. If your wife goes forward with the IUD, that should make things more comfortable for her.
The only possible negative to Mirena is that, like all hormone-based methods, it can cause a reduction in sex drive. I believe that the pill, which I took for many years, played a role in my own LD state.
