I am not offering to counsel your husband vis a vis his relationship with you.
I'm here to help him get to work. I'm an HR professional and a headhunter I also will do so with the understanding that he's repented of his affair and needs to stop burying his head in the sand.
He needs a Christian who can give him permission to live like he's forgiven.
I think it's more of personal coaching and encouragement.
I won't judge him.
And the most important thing -- I'm foul-mouthed and have a disarming sense of humor.