My interaction with my W last night made me think a lot more about how we 'the separated and left behind' make progress towards our goal, namely reconciliation for most people.
It seems that everyone is different, but that there are often many similarities. So, I have a few questions for others that may be illuminating ...
How long were you together? How long have you been separated? Do you understand what happened to cause the separation? What do you think your partner thinks of you (now, then)? How does your partner behave towards you now? Are you able to understand your partners actions? Do you seen any glimmer of hope for your R coming from your partner? If so, how long did it take before hope appeared (following separation)? What do you think caused that change in your partner? How regularly do you have *any* type of contact with your partner? How often do you see your partner? Is that often enough? Have you gone through a 'dating period'? Was that positive? Are you able to discuss your R at all or is that too dangerous? What do you do with your free time? How do you handle the feeling of being lonely, assuming you do feel that way? What do you think about your partner (now, then)? Do you still want to reconcile?
Me 36 W 37 Bomb (Easter 07) Sep (WAW July 07) "It's over" (end Oct 07) T10.5 years, M2 (before bomb)
