How many details of OP did you get, want, need?

[saffie]

root,

I feel a feeling of deja vu coming over me!!!!

You responded on my original thread a few times with your wise words. I feel I lack the wisdom to help you here, (if any help is required).

Have you thought about writing out a list of any unanswered questions you have? I know it won't be definitive as any answers you get may lead on to other questions, but it may be a starting point.

It may get you to focus on the outstanding issues and decide if they are so important that you need to clarify them or whether you can lay them to rest by yourself.

I don't know what I would have done if my H hadn't been forthcoming - murder would have most likely taken place by now - not sure whether it would have been OW's or H's.

I'm sorry I am not more help.

Saffie