God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.
Unfortunately your S is the only one who can do anything about their drinking. My w tried for years to get me to stop drinking and in the end gave up on me and the m (so far anyway). I could tell she meant it when I got the ILYBINILWY 2 years ago this November. It took me 2 months after the bomb for me to get to AA and that was only because I'd read about it in the "Codependent no more" book my w was reading. Crazy hey, I only went so it would help w see I was trying to change i had not accepted the fact that I was an alcoholic I just thought I was a bloke that liked to get pi##ed a lot after all everyone else I knew drank a lot. Now I know that I used to hang around alcoholics, not real friends just drinking buddies not the same as friends not by a long shot.
I had my last drink in January 06 by April I had found out about my w's adultery and been forced out of the family home. I didn't want to go I can tell you but I knew that if I didn't she would and she would take the kids too. I couldn't let her do that so reluctantly I left.
So here I am now 18 months sober and w doesn't want a bar of me has the latest om round the family home most weekends. The kids hate the situation and the om. w seems as happy as Larry totally unaware of the suffering going on around her.
My life has changed dramatically in the last 2 years, if I don't count the situation with the w I'm quite happy with my lot in life. I hold on to the hope that my w is in MLC as she is showing all the traits of one and I know that it would only take one drink for all the good things I have gained to go.
So I thought I'd send you the Serenity Prayer above. You cannot make anyone do anything. You can only control what YOU do. Remember.
