Hi Startingover,

I know what you are going through. I was there about 6 months ago. It was difficult. I will put links to my thread and Saffie's from that time, because though our sitch's were not exactly like yours, they were similar.

This is Saffie's thread:

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1105465&page=0&fpart=1

This is my thread:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1105465&page=0&fpart=1

and this is a thread about Retrouvaille, the really great program that saved my marriage and turned us back into a loving couple:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1177999&page=0&fpart=1

So good luck with everything. It sounds like your H is old enough to drop the frat boy behavior and settle down and be a good father. It's going to be a lot of work, but so is everything that is rewarding in life!