WAW filing for D

[dlt1]

Indeed, I did it all right (ok for the most part). After talking with LF, I am filing D papers. Will sign and file next weekend. Fittingly at my yearly Labor Day Party. Will celebrate my new beginning with my nearest and dearest friends. Had a funk this afternoon as it sank in that we are through. Talked to F's and fam and they helped me remember that this is her decision. I am giving W what she wants. Got my #'s together and I will end up slightly better than where I am now. A very fair deal, but W won't see it that way. Her perception is jaded. Not my prob. I'm excited (and scared) at beginning my next stage in life. Next few weeks will be a rollercaoster as I deal with moving on, and reflecting on what we are tearing apart. I am good with it.
Oh, and nurse will say for sure tomorrow, but don't think they'll have to cut my leg off!! That's always a good thing

[Handful of Rain]

dlt1, You sound great! The funk sucks, but it moves out rather quickly, when you are detaching, like you are, and since you have already made up your mind to D, having the encouragement of friends and family does/will help.

Well, take good care of that leg of yours, don't the doctor or W, take it, LOL. Take care.

[dlt1]

Sux that I've turned that corner. But I have a direction. You're a good friend to have. Thanks for keeping watch on me.

[NDDT]

I am almost where you are at dlt .........

going to let this move happen .... then take a few days to ponder it

I would think in next 3 weeks I will be doing the same ...

still holding a little hope...but its fading fast

G

[Handful of Rain]

NDDT, remember, a little hope, is better than no hope! Continue to have hope in yourself! Take care.

[Handful of Rain]

dlt1, no problem, bro, anytime, I consider you a good friend too. You keep doing the same for me. Take care.

[dlt1]

Shipper straight to surgery today. Not a big deal, just sliced the back of my leg right there in the surgeon's office. The nurse was quite HOT, also quite married, but hey not like I'm ready to jump in. Just getting the engine warmed up. So I talked to her a bit to remind myself that women do like me and like to talk to me. I will be seeing her every morning to change my dressing thru Thurs. My roomie will help me with it at night, but we both think it is best to have someone do it right at least once a day.
My W could probably do it no problem, but didn't even think about it until this evening. This is a good instance for me to see that I will survive. I don't need W to lean on. My damn leg was possibly going to fall off, and I turned to friends w/out a second thought. W did get utilities switched over. Last thing is the cell phones, which I e-mialed her what to do ( I called on my end this afternoon while lounging after surgery).
Also let her know 4 items I have to get. I suggested she put them on the couch in garage so I do not have to go inside.
My temtation to snoop need not be given opportunity. Obviously, only bad things come from it.
Should be in good shape for the upcoming weekend. I can't wait to see everyone. We're up to 24 of us plus a few young ones. Only thing I can't do is go swimming in Lake MI. I'll stick to grilling and feeding everyone. I've been getting excited about cooking again. The new style old me is emerging. And he looks goooooood!

[Handful of Rain]

dlt1, Sorry to hear about your unfortunate accident, but what a place for it to happen in the doctor's office. You must have a Guardian Angel on your shoulder.

I agree with you about not depending on your W, to help you, It does show her that you are able to take care and do what you need to, with out her. Great Job!

Also, glad to hear that the bills are taken care of, As for me the subject of cellphones is a still a sore issue, but I got the one that caused the problem (my old one that I lent to her when she lost hers) back, Haven't decided what to do, with it yet. First thought was destroy it, right in front of her, But I might just clear it and recycle it.

Good job, as always on handling the W, when it comes to getting your stuff, I think this will really show her that you are NOT pursuing her, anymore.

On the last part of your post, you said, something that really stuck out, you said that the new style old me is emerging, You know I have felt that myself, living here with my mom, and getting a job that I enjoy, has made me feel like I was 19 again, but only there are 2 differences, now I know what I didn't know then, And I don't have the GF, that I had then (AKA my W) Have fun, with the outing, Try to stay out of the water, and send some of that food my way, LOL. I love barbecue! LOL. Take care.

[dlt1]

Hi Rain,
I wasn't clear on the leg slicing. Not an accident, the surgeon did it when she saw what my leg looked like. I'm off to get dressing changed.
Yeah, I think W will start seeing that I am done. Some say that will bring her running to me at somepoint. I just don't see myself considering taking her. Oh well, who knows til it happens. She will be quite surprised when she is served with D papers!
Glad to hear you're seeing yourself in there again. Doesn't it feel nice?
Take care,

[Handful of Rain]

dlt1, I know what you mean, I have once again, changed my game plan, my new goal is to make my W, wonder, what I am doing. You know to keep her guessing, spark her curiosity, We are back to no contact, and it sucks! but...

Tonight, as I was talking with DD11, Heard, W tell her to tell me a funny story that happened to W, I didn't really care, I didn't think it was funny, and I think it showed through to DD11, But now that I am not pursuing or asking about her, anymore. W, will just have to wonder, (You can check out my last post for more on the conversation with my DD11) Take care.