Good for you. Poopy walls can be a challenge. Mrs. Tough Azz Corri says this in HIND sight.
I am going to be a kick azz grandma, as the things I will let my GC get away with, to purposely under mind their parents -- in an evil but delayed attempt to get even with her own offspring -- will have NOTHING to do with personal hygiene and ruining dry wall.
In any event.
I cry to my bf all the time about the mean, horrid things my xH is doing TO MY BABY BOYS, to make them unfeeling cads in the life and world of women and men.
He has, like.... less than .02 ounces of sympathy for me. He does, however, honor my... motherly inclinations. That does not mean he makes excuses for me, for them, or their father. What Is. Is. He may not AGREE with the decisions my xH makes... but. He says, out loud... "I don't HAVE to agree with his decisions. I'm not their father. That doesn't mean I wouldn't do things different. But. As I am not their father, and it is obvious the father loves his boys... I'm not getting into it."
Period. End of discussion.
Now. If I am feeling all... momma. He does speak up. I take his views into consideration. I still make MY decisions, as they are MY kids. But... if their father gets harsher than I am willing to get (like conditioning...)... because my sense of being a mother outweighs my willingness to let my son puke through his face mask... no matter how much of an athlete **I** am or have ever been... (not relevant in my mom eyes)... my bf does the 'there, there' thing so I can work through it. He does not call me stupid, or girl, or he does not tell me to just 'get over it, you are being silly. You've been an athlete."
Yeah. But I've NEVER been an athlete WITH OFFSPRING. Different story. Now my DIL (ex actually), has no empathy factor whatsoever. You sign up, you deal.
I think that might be a bit extreme for a five year old.... dunno. But my kids are older, so I digress...
I'm a pansy when it comes to my kids and sports... til they show me otherwise. My oldest son... I don't grind him, but I don't let him off the hook, because he doesn't WANT ME to. So I don't.
My youngest... is still reaching for the point between manhood and the comforts of mom and childhood. I think he will get there natrually; his dad sees it otherwise.
To me... be a kid as long as you can. There is no turning back once you move to leave it.
Shrug. It is not a matter of right and wrong. I will always go with my instinct. I'm not a coddler. I do not function to handicap people. These are MY views. I'm not changing. I am being a mother, the best way **I** know how, and I am not collecting opinions on the matter.
How the dad's deal with it (me) is their prob. But I do appreciate hugs along the way.
GGB. Don't ask your woman to stop being a mom. But don't cave on being The Dad.
