I asked him to move out (I thought a temp sep) because I was going through cycles of hope that would crash upon a word or act that brought me back to his reality of the sitch, and each down-turn brought me closer to suicide every time. I might have ended up hospitalized...or dead, if he didn't leave. He had convinced me that he was telling me all of the truth, blaming me for the breakup in the M, when he had already started an affair.
When the affair was discovered, it was only 2 days before he was going to leave, anyway--and I threw the rest of his crap in the driveway. His apt was already rented. I filed the legal sep the next day, realizing that I would now have to contend with a 3rd party involved who had anything BUT my and my kids' best interest at heart. It was to protect us from her. Read above, and it is lucky that I did.
We'll see how much more she has wormed her way into his head by the final hearing.
