I don't know if I am ready to be honest with you. I would like to get to this point , where being just co-parents is all I want, but I don't think I am ready yet.
I still have a lot of hurt and anger towards my H. Last night he asked me if I would switch weekends with him b/c his mom was having some out of town guests staying with her on his weekend to have the kids. ( H stays with MIL every other weekend when he has the kids-- all other times he is living with Ow)
He starts out by telling me that he doesn't know what his mom was thinking ,but she asked her friends to come and stay with her on a weekend he has the kids. " There is just no room for us if they come that weekend."
He goes on to say that he could take the kids to "the apt that weekend, but he just doesn't have the room there." "I don't know what I am going to do, my mother was going to ask her friends to come another weekend, but if they don't then I'm not sure what I am going to do."
The more I thought about it the more I thought- just another reminder on how selfish he is.... did he forget whose house he was staying at? It's his mom's house ,,, not his.
What did he want me to say? I can't feel sorry for him. He lives with Ow . It's not my fault he doesn't have his OWN place big enough to take his kids too.
It's pathetic that he stays at his mom's with the kids I think. He is a grown man who should be standing on his own two feet.
H's family thinks he has no choice but to live with Ow in her tiny apt b/c he can't afford to get his own place. He either lives there for free or chips in on the rent. Whatever it is cheaper than if he had to find his own apt. He says he doesn't want to live with his mom b/c "I am a grown man!"-- but it's okay to stay their every other weekend with his kids?????
I supposed to let him know if I will switch weekends with him. I'm not going to switch, but if he doesn't have anywhere to take d that weekend I will tell him to leave her home with me. He knows how I feel about her going to Ow's apt overnight. I wonder if he was hoping that I would say okay about switching so that's why he made sure to meantion taking the kids to the apt.?
