Monogomous Nympho Frustrated by Sexy LD Hubby

[MJontheMend]

MJ, your posts have been most helpful to me so far... I am very interested in knowing more about the Lioness/Monkey/Bunny/Cow dynamics, from both your intruiguing introduction as well as the fact that when my H is being nice to me (more often than not), he calls me Bunny. (When he isn't being nice, he is very fond of not-so-nice name calling including particularly irritating made-up stuff). Can you point me to more information?

I have frequently been called Bunny myself so that is why I chose that animal to represent that aspect of my femininity/sexuality. Obviously, you like it when your H calls you Bunny because you link it with him "being nice" to you. A simplistic view on the matter would lead you to believe something like "if I act more Bunny then my H will be more nice to me." Sadly this will fail for the same reason that a man "acting macho" doesn't really come off as that appealing. If you want to nurture the Bunny part of your persona you need to mother the little girl in you. I guarantee that if you start taking care of your own girl monkey and bunny more, you will wind up a far happier person with a far happier relationship than if you concern yourself with taking care of your H's puppy dog or boy monkey. In lioness mode you are being paternal towards your H and in cow mode you are being maternal towards your H. Both are pretty much libido killers. What you need to do is direct those energies more inward which will have the odd effect of directing your libido towards yourself in a sort of spread-out sensual way. As in "I'm going to take the extra $100 I earned this week and take myself to the circus and then I'm going to go to the beauty salon just to get my hair shampooed and blown dry." Of course, the indirect result of taking such good care of yourself and having so much fun is that just about everyone will want to be nice to you and f8ck your brains out because when you do that the excess will necessarily spill out all around you and everyone will see you as nice, fun, generous and free of expectations on others. At least that is my theory - lol

Here's a rough example of what I mean. Let's say you were contemplating doing something lame like cooking your H his favorite dinner in the hope that you might get some action in exchange. What you are effectively doing is mothering your H in the hope that he will father your monkey. What you might do instead is father your own monkey by taking yourself on a bike ride and extend an open invitation to your H or mother your own bunny by making a special dinner you enjoy and sharing it with your H. That way you avoid the whole "tit-for-tat" resentment/obligation/expectation build-up.