No Piecing, no Divorced but not done. I am still strung out here in Limbo land, waiting. Not much else I can do. I'm not the one calling the shots.
Thus the reason for the "three month ultimatum". He likes to make decisions fast, will not waffle or backpeddle, and I did not want him to rush head-long into divorce/dissolution proceedings, just "because" he likes to "get things done".
The three months gave him "breathing room", so he would not have to ask for it. However, his words and actions during this three month period has not given me ONE WINK of hope. He is still steadfast.
Really, just holding ground, waiting until the second week of September. To see if he has been talking to L, drawing up a proposal, etc. etc. My MC tells me to sit back and let him approach me with all the D details. Don't offer to help or initiate.
If he hits me hard and fast, like "Okay, I waited 3 months, now this is what I propose to do", all I can do is drag my feet, be agreeable, and try to go along, acting all friendly and not shutting the door.
If he waffles, does not come at me with any concrete stuff about divorce, I am going to assume THE GAME IS STILL ON. And will DB in full force again.
Nothin' I can do until then but wait and see what his decision will be in mid-September.
Just reall wish it were not all mixed up in with the anniversary/B-day. I'd rather just let laying dogs lie. This silence is fine the way it is. I don't want him to try and "read" anything into the cards.
Think I will just send nothing. MAYBE a late B-day card.
ME 40 HIM 48 Married one year. First for him Second for me Proud parents of a baby girl
