heya... sounds like you're another lucky one, where MIL is *potentially* on your side. good for you.

quickie again:

if your wife brings up R, i dont think it's bad to talk about it. Just no begging, etc. Sounds like you did really good, where you affirmed your commitment.

About the lawyer: Just make it clear that you went for a consultation, so that you know what to expect, if it comes up again.

Sounds like your wife is really, REALLY hostile, and alomst totally committed to divorcing you at this point. She's just reluctant to take that final step.

If you like to "not go there", I would suggest not bringing up ANY kind of conflict. for, say... the next month :-/

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I then asked her how she would feel if I had an interest in someone else. She got very excited at this possibility and I ended up telling her about the girl I've been talking to at work. Told her that I didn't intend on pursuing anything, but it made me feel good that there were other possibilities out there. Weird that she was excited about this.



no, it's not wierd. its quite obvious by this, that she is interested in other people. That guy, specifically. And if you are also interested in other people, then "divorce is the 'right' thing to do for both of you'. SO you can "both be happy".

To be blunt: you were dumb to ever bring this up. \:\(

I'll take a shot in the dark, and make the following observations

1. Your wife is"done working on the marriage". That means, you will have to do all the work, for quite a long time. dont bother even trying to get her to put in any serious effort. It may just piss her off, and make her want to escape more.

2. I'm guesssing you should probably focus less on saying "I think we can work things out", and focus more on actually DOING the "work".
ie: find out why she doesnt feel connected with you, and try to fix it. from your side.

3. be happy she still wants to do fun things with you and the kids. Keep it up, while not smothering her.

Those are my non-professional suggestions to ya ;\)
good luck!

My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle