Negative thoughts bring negative results. We have to turn this around. But, I want you to know the thoughts and feelings you have are normal. This is a stage of healing you must get through in order to restore the M. If the feelings didn't come out they would simply fester inside and you would not ever be able to put them behind you. Look at your emotions as a necessity, get them out and then move forward. Time is a key element and your H needs to understand that. He needs to be as patient with you as you are tolerant of his prior behavior.
There is a forum that is titled; Staying Solution Focused Workshop. Visit it and find any thread about staying positive, thought stopping, etc and gleen the experience of people who have traveled the same road.
I have a few things to share with you via e-mail, so look for those. I'm sending one right after this.
Stay patient, listen to your T. The tears will end and you will be filled with joy. If the efforts a relationship or marriage were easy, they simply wouldn't hold the significance they do. By making the effort required, you will be rewarded ten fold.
