I believe Al Turtle was saying it made sense when you think about it from a conflict avoider standpoint. They are trying as hard as they can not to have any conflict and everything becomes a conflict - a question asked, a raise of an eyebrow at the wrong time. The needing to get away keeps building until finally you have to leave to get comfort.
He is suggesting that guilt and avoidance are really big in H and I need to break that down and show him I am working on my part in things. That is the only thing I can work on.
Sitting quietly doing nothing, the flowers bloom effortlessly.
bomb: Jan 25, 2006 not seen since DD moved in with H - 9/1/08 H filed for divorce - 11/2008 Divorce dismissed by courts - 4/2010 still nothing
I am trying to decide if I want a new boy in my life. I can't say man since he is only 1 year old. He's got the sweetest face and black hair and the cutest butt. hmmmmmmm
Sitting quietly doing nothing, the flowers bloom effortlessly.
bomb: Jan 25, 2006 not seen since DD moved in with H - 9/1/08 H filed for divorce - 11/2008 Divorce dismissed by courts - 4/2010 still nothing
OK, here I am feeling lonely and neglected <hand on head and lying dramatically on couch> NO ONE wants to know about my new boy! <sob> Oh woe is me...<giggle>
Sitting quietly doing nothing, the flowers bloom effortlessly.
bomb: Jan 25, 2006 not seen since DD moved in with H - 9/1/08 H filed for divorce - 11/2008 Divorce dismissed by courts - 4/2010 still nothing
In fact, after I read it, I was searching for an article I read recently about how bringing boys into our lives helps us in so many ways, but I couldn't find it.
But, as opposed to all the snarkiness on dnq's thread about why he shouldn't, oh, most definitely, YOU SHOULD...
hehehehhe Lissie - actually the neighbor is giving me his year old stallion!! He has the softess eyes and is a real sweethead and the people who own the horses on my property said I could use their food! WOW!! It's like a dream coming true. I have wanted a horse since i was 12! Best thing is I can geld him.....finally getting even!
Sitting quietly doing nothing, the flowers bloom effortlessly.
bomb: Jan 25, 2006 not seen since DD moved in with H - 9/1/08 H filed for divorce - 11/2008 Divorce dismissed by courts - 4/2010 still nothing
