Get me on a smoother ride........Need Advice

[SueS]

Hi there-

It's been a few days since I posted. Our 3 yr old is sick, so I've been at home with her. I didn't want to get on at home, but I know I'll be busy at work tomorrow. Also, my H's attitude & personality took a nose dive yesterday.

Our weekend was wonderful. We had a great time at the wedding for the most part. My H got kind of quiet and I asked him what was wrong.....what can I do. He had been drinking and said....you need to loosen up. I told him that I thought I'd been doing pretty good lately & trust me, I was having a blast at the wedding. He said....you know what I want. I asked what. He said....A hot blonde. Well, let's just say, I'm no ugly duckling, but I'm not blonde & I'm not hot.....not yet anyway. So, he suggested that I get out more and find someone to bring into our relationship....for a one time thing. I told him that I couldn't do that. It ended there. I'm not sure if he remembers telling me that, because Saturday he was great. He & I both worked until about 1:00. We talked 3 or 4 times during the morning. My parent's had our D for the day. I'd asked him on Saturday morning if he'd mind if our D stayed with my parents one more night so I could do with him what I wanted. He said sure. After work I shopped with my Mom, my H cooked a great dinner & then they took our D with them. My H & I went to a movie & then of all things....went grocery shopping. We got home close to midnight. Nothing happened that night, as we were both wiped out. No R talk, no I Love You's.....etc. Although he was his silly self with me, which he hasn't been in a long time.

On Sunday, I apologized for not keeping my promise of doing what I said I would. He said that was okay because he was too tired too. We went to breakfast with my parents. They left & my H went golfing. I called to ask him to pick something up for me and go his voicemail. He called me right back. He was home early. He was okay Sunday evening, but the attitude & open communication has started back down the roller coaster again. We talked a little bit yesterday while he was at work. We had a bad storm last night and it blew out our TV again. He was more than angry about that and of course took it out verbally on me. No names, just angry tones when talking to me. He just called from work to check on our D and to tell me about a concert that we want to go to. Still quiet though.....nothing compared to Sat.

And yes, I did check his phone. I know, I know I'm not supposed to. No calls from Wed.-Sat. A call in & a call out on Sun. One call in from her on Mon.

Just a few things to add so you know a little more....
-H can be a big drinker. Other than the last two Fri. evenings, hasn't drank for about a month.
-H just turned 40. Got an earring & a new ring for his index finger??
-H adores our D, but seemed a little annoyed with her the past few days that she's been sick.
-H loves his new position, but this month has been slow.

Thanks again for listening!!