Thanx a lot for posting! I did read your thread before I posted mine - an I really guess we're in a quiet similar situation.
And me too, I realized that It was not my first relationship where I tried to FIX something/someone. This is why I wanna go to see a therapist all by myself now.
We went to the business counselling today - and we both felt it was really good. We now got instruments to deal with each other on a business-basis - which is very important coz we're financially dependent... But the real challenge is to deal with him on the emotional level - regarding the fact, that he says he does not love me anymore and it seems he fell in love with another woman. We will still be seing each other at least 4 times a week... The counsellor even gave us the advice to deal with business matters each day - even if only on the phone. Also, she told us to have a regualar like "date" outside home or business - like playing squash - to get rid of possible aggressions...
And to me, she told me to trust him that he can do better than he did before...
Now the thing is, I can't find Michelles book anymore, where I wanted to read about the 180 and other means of helping myself to do better than before... What can I do best in my current situation? Would be very pleased to get some ideas!
