In fact I wouldn't ask her just get her one with some lubricant and tell her to have some fun one day while you watch the kids.
Ha. I really appreciate the suggestion (and I'd love having a woman I could buy that stuff for) but right now, my 99.999% accurate gut instinct tells me that it would only be viewed as me putting pressure on. Or worse.
To be honest, she even balked at the thought of me buying her underwear recently (she "wouldn't have time to wear it" or something. Eh?) so I guess a vibrator and some lube would just be taking things a step too far. Heh.
She's scared? Maybe. Maybe not. I'm not even really sure about the body image issues any more - she can undress in front of me, she'll lie in the bath while we talk, she'll walk around the house completely naked, she'll kiss me before and after work, she'll put kisses on her text messages, she'll rest her legs across mine or cuddle up on the sofa every night, and she'll spoon in bed, but as soon as there's *any* hint or suggestion of intimate physical contact, up go the barriers.
I'm totally aware that I sound like a broken record here, and I apologise for that. I simply just don't know what the issues are here, and the harsh truth is that unless she steps up and decides to tell me herself, I'll probably never know.
But y'know what - life is definitely too short for this.
One thing I do have a problem with, though, is this (hypothetically, if it ever came to it, etc, etc): how would I explain to the kids when they're older that I walked for something like this? The last thing I ever want to do is hurt them, and I guess they're one of the big reasons why I'm still here...
I'm not saying that this will ever happen, but it's a possibility - and it's something I'd like to get straight in my own head, know what I mean?
