One thing I've felt throughout this process is that it feels like things don't add up. I think we are right for each other, but she is behaving as if she doesn't care about me at all.
I am sure she cares. You don't spend that much time with someone and then stop caring. She may want to make YOU think she doesn't care so that she doesn't 'lead you on'. She may be trying to make HERSELF think she doesn't care so that she can move forward guilt free. Unless you abused her or neglected her to the point she has been disconnected for years, I just can't imagine she doesn't care.
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Is this too dangerous / too soon? (separated 7 weeks, seen each other twice, quite a few texts)
Is what too soon? Meeting?
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How do I stop being paranoid?
Good question- let me know what you find out.
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Is there a danger in all of this that neither of us know what to do, so we end up drifting even further apart? What strategy could be used to start a shift towards us having more high-quality contact?
Probably you need to make sure that all contact is positive and upbeat. Talk about how great Turkey was. All the socializing you did. Show pics. Any photos with you next to an attractive woman? Watch how she responds. What would be some 180s for you? What did she complain about? Have you been working on those things? Are there any concrete actions or evidence that you have been working on those things?
As far as discussing things- only you know how she might react. My H seems okay with talking about things; to a degree. Probably the biggest down side for me is that he is flip-flopping, so even if he does communicate, it is apt to change.
Can you not be honest and just ask how she views you? Are you prepared for any answer?
Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing
