I don't remember if I've read your sitch, but I'll try and take a look at it. My H and I were separated and in divorce for about 7 months (but there were previous separations, talk of D and yo-yoing for about 4 years... definite MLC!). At the time the D was filed we had been married 21 years.
I'm glad my advice was helpful. Unfortunately, sometimes a lot of time is needed for these things to work out, or reach a conclusion or direction. It takes a lot of strength and patience to get through these things. I admire you and others here for that.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
