why don't I listen to my own stories?

[NikB]

I think I was WAY too nice after he let me know about his dates. After I got done being mad, I was affectionate towards him, snuggly. I wanted to reconnect because I felt like he had broken our tennuous connection with his disclosures. I didn't want our night together to be icky; I wanted him to go with good memories. That was dumb. I stuffed my real feelings when I should have sat with them and let him 'earn' his way back into my good graces.

Agent99 - I've said it before but you remind me SO MUCH of me and how our sep went. I was so happy for the good connections and times that I ended up looking like a doormat, and feeling like I had no self respect (and losing H's respect even more, in the process).

Don't bring it up again - just decide what your boundary is, and how you'll act moving forward.

Edited to add... as Dom said, I don't think it was all bad. If you make it TOO hard he won't want to work at it at all, he'll just move on to someone "easier." You just need to decide what works for YOU and go with that. If you're fine with what happened and stil respect yourself, you're doing great. But if you're feeling disrespected or like you were "used" in some way - figure out what to change, so you can stay emotionally healthy.

Hope that makes sense.