(((((((((((((Hope))))))))))))) I wish I could give you a hug IRL!!!!
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
Hope so sorry to hear about the crazy stuff going on, but know that God has a plan. You are going to move on and there is a wonderful, considerate, caring relationship waiting for you.
Maybe the worst is now over and you can rebuild a better life for you...Someone told me once that it could be the best thing that ever happen to you....Its hard to think that now but reading what has happened....You are going to survive and things are going to get better for you because you are the better person...My BIL told me once that maybe MY H and OW deserved each other. I think that is your case also.
Im feeling for you right now, You are a sweet thing and deserve better than he could ever give you. You will find someone that will be appreciative of your love and faithfulness and you XH will someday realized what he lost and will be kicking himself for it.
You are truly in a better place then he will ever be. Your strong, funny and a good person and I have no doubt that you will find happiness.
(((((HOPE))))
Blessings~ Tal
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
If I remeber correctly u mentioned you two tried to conceive and nothing. Try to look at this as a blessing in disguise. All As's have repercussions.
There is a reason why God did not allow for you two to convceive. Who knows what kind of a father he will be and YOU would of been stuck prolly bing a single mother. Give it time for them to reap what they sowed. Bringing a kid into this mess they created will only add to their crunbling down of a R.
I beleive God has someone better for you. Trust in HIM. You seem so strong and I am sure HE has given you that strength and will continue to do so.
Thanks everyone for all your support. I'm doing good. XH hasn't shown up yet, so I have been going through some stuff, even wedding pictures and I have been able to keep it together pretty good. I really do believe that I've through the worse.
Chicki, Yes, you are correct. XH and I had been fighting infertility problems for 3 years at the time he started the A. Like anyone in my sitch, I was always hoping that he and OW would split up soon after the D and she would be out of all of our lives forever. If she is pregnant, that is not going to happen. He will forever be tied to her. The good news is that we don't have any children, so I won't forever be tied to him; however, I will have to see him at the occasional family things...I am the godmother of his 6 year old nephew. You are probably right when you say that it is a blessing in disguise that we never got pregnant. If he's the type of man that has 2 A's and then gets the OW pregnant...he isn't the type of man that I want to be the father of my children. I guess he thought having a baby was the be all and end all to life...well, it looks like he's getting what he always wanted...it's too bad that it is not with the woman that he promised to love and cherish forever.
Last edited by hopeless11; 08/28/0707:56 PM.
M:28, D finalized: 8/28/07 Current Thread
"When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile."
Hopeful, You are my HERO. You have handled your divorce with such dignity and grace. I want to bawl for you. I hope that I display half as much dignity and grace as you have when my D is final. I will remember you in my prayers tonight.
I say go out and celebrate life with your friends tonight! You are not the loser, your H is. He got his prize, sadly I believe he will soon find out that it is a booby prize.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Yoyo, Thank you so much. I don't think that I can be anyone's hero. I'm sitting here after just 5 years with a failed marriage. I can only hope that I live and learn and if I get married again, it will be to a man who loves and cherishes only me forever.
I don't have any plans to celebrate tonight...that's tomorrow night. Some girls from work are taking me out. I agree I think both XH and OW are both booby prizes maybe that is why they are still together. In my heart, I still believe they have a very hard, rough life ahead of them. Not only was he careless enough to get OW pregnant, but then he had to tell everyone his good news 2 weeks before the D was finalized...could he do anything more selfish than that. He told his mom...I hope xxxx doesn't find out. Yeah, does he think that is going to put me over the edge...I say it's your life and you are the one that just screwed it up a whole lot more...good luck.
