Hi Hope, Just wanted to send you lots of hugs and support. You have fought a long and hard battle to save your marriage your husband did not. You deserve the best of what life has to offer you. Here's to a wonderful life.
Yoyo
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Well, I am sitting here almost exactly 12 hours from my divorce hearing. I have not heard one peep from STBXH in over a week. It seems that he has decided to leave me alone once and for all, and has moved on to stirring up drama with his family. Like I said a few days ago...they can deal with it...I've been dealing with it for 10 months now. Anyways, someone must have sent him an anonymous letter that was very nasty and said what an @sshole he is being to everyone. I guess my one comment about that is the truth hurts doesn't it. I have no idea who sent the letter, but I am guess it might be the niece who didn't roll out the red carpet for OW and then he told his niece that he was disappointed in her for treating OW like that.
The hearing is right away in the morning and then XH is supposed to come back to my house and pack up some of his stuff since he thought bringing OW along with him was more important 2 weekends ago when he was around. Now he gets to get divorced and sit and pack up all the broken dreams and old memories on his 29th birthday...what a way to celebrate.
Here's to staying strong and looking forward to the future. Please keep me in your thoughts and prayers tomorrow.
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M:28, D finalized: 8/28/07 Current Thread
"When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile."
Hope, You will be in my thoughts and prayers. I know tomorrow will be difficult. Try to think of it as the end of a bad chapter, and you are about to start a wonderful new chapter called life.
Hugs and Prayers, Yoyo
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Thanks everyone. I just got back from the hearing, and I can honestly say that after what I found out today, I am relieved that I am sitting here with a signed dissolution of marriage.
All went as well as it could have at the courthouse. H got there after me, so I was already sitting down. He just walked in and I had tears in my eyes, but I kept it together. He asked me to move over, so he could sit by me (I thought this was a little strange, but oh well). We chitchatted a little. His attorney was late, so our case was held up a while. Our part went really smooth. I didn't shed a tear and neither did he. I took about 5-10 minutes and it was all over. We walked out together because he parked right by me (strange again). I asked him if he was coming to get his stuff. He said yes, but he was going to run by his old work first. He said what are you going to do? I said go home. He said and do cartwheels. With tears in my eyes...I looked him straight in the eye and said you know this is never what I wanted. He turned away real quick, said he'd call, and jumped in his truck. He got on his cell right away.
On the way home, I called MIL to tell her that it was over and went fine and that I was ok. Everyone on here knows that my story is really crazy. The only thing that was missing to make it a real life soap opera was OW being pregnant...it's no longer missing. XH and OW are telling people that she is pregnant and due in March. I am having a hard time believing it given the OW's manipulating, but it very well could be true. All I can say is that I am glad that I am sitting here with signed D papers today and I do not feel an ounce of guilt about how I handled things or for getting 2/3 of our assets. I never thought God would bring an innocent little baby into this world from an adulterous affair. I am completely done with my XH. If he doesn't show this afternoon, I will pack his stuff up and give it to his family. I have no intentions of seeing him for a very long time. I did everything I could and I really am moving on to bigger and better things.
M:28, D finalized: 8/28/07 Current Thread
"When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile."
Oh, Hope when do the hits quit coming? I'm so sorry, but you are right, now it's your time to have a good and happy life. Somehow I don't think your H will experience that any time soon. I'm here for you.
Hugs, Yoyo
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
hope...thanks for being available to all of us...we share in your pain/hurt ...you have a good heart... I am not far behind you ,only 13days ... know you are in my thoughts and prayers....take care SorryDog
Me 47 W 42 D 20 S 18 D 13 S 11 Married 17 yrs Asked for D Mothers Day PA found out on 6/14/07 W filed D 7/3/07 D court date 9/10/07 W moved out 7/17/07
I know tomorrow will be difficult. Try to think of it as the end of a bad chapter, and you are about to start a wonderful new chapter called life.