Guys, you aren't telling me something I don't know. I'm not looking for coddling, I'm looking for answers. I appreciate your candor, really I do. I understand that I need to make a decision, stay or go. I know this - but it's hard. On the one hand, I love being with my H - he makes me laugh, we share a lot of hobbies, etc, but on the other hand, I want someone I respect, and to be intimate with, someone who "needs" sex and will gladly share in that with me. I'm scared, I don't trust my judgment and someone pointed out to me this weekend, I just don't want to be bothered in making the decision so I ignore it all. It's too much trouble and it's just easier to stay. Maybe she's right.
