You all have some valid points, and while I think the short term is that it is a cheesless tunnel it is having an odd effect. As soon as I started sticking up for myself, she is interested. When I was acting like a doormat she is looking at me like, well that is sweet and all but your still an idiot. I just need to stand up for myself without being a jerk when doing it. I like the rubberband idea, as a reactionary and a physically centered person that could work wonders.